cry it out!---please don't!

My son's pediatricians proudly says he lets his child cry at night and does not get bothered by it.

If my partner, a fully adult human who is far more capable of understanding the world and his own emotions than my child, cried-- I soothe him. We are expected to be there for adults who are struggling and support them; be it our partners, siblings or friends. Then why do we expect a child who has no comprehension for the complexities of life to be not dependent upon us to cry and let us know of their distress. And how is it being a good parent to be ignoring these distress calls. 

Are these methods of suggested parenting for the good of the children or to avoid hassles for the parents. Did we become parents to avoid hassles or does the tiredness and stress not come implied with all the other parental responsibilities? Why do we subject a child, who did not ask for this, to distress and refuse to help them to fit our agenda?

I was not aware of the term gentle parenting until I happened upon a group on Facebook and they have opened my eyes and shown me that I am not alone. There are other parents out there who do not think ignoring their childs call for help is making them tough and independent. It may cause harm in many ways instead. I found that such things can cause child to become short tempered, have trust issues and develop feeling unwanted. Psychologists agree with this and says that the cry it out method actually does more harm than good in the long term for the child and says " It releases stress hormones, impairs self-regulation, and undermines trust."Therefore even though our parents think we are spoiling our child, same as our son's pediatrician, I will continue to NOT ignore my child's call for help and thus choose to be a gentle parent instead. After all, there is no such thing as too much love.